love songs!
I’m thrilled to performing this weekend at Winds of Change in Courtenay (Saturday at 4pm). I will showcase original songs exploring the metaphysical pathways of real love, how to navigate its terrors and pains as well as receive and believe in an ever-expanding universe of deepening trust. Love is a profoundly transformational journey, the most rewarding and frightening path there is, and for those of us who choose it, the risks are well worth the rewards.
We all love falling in love with ‘the One’, that magical feeling of total merging, bonding with another human, being completed by your soulmate. Life is all about happy ever after once you have that experience. Isn’t it?
Not really. Falling in love is only the beginning. Love’s Heaven, when it’s deep and real, the sort that begins with that utter bliss of deep meeting your own perfect ‘other’, the one you feel safe and at home with, your best friend and boon companion, can become Hell when the beloved become the hated Other in a flash.
“I don’t know who you are right now!” “I can’t believe you just said / did that!” “But you know better, you know how much that would hurt me, how could you…?” “What on earth did you mean by that?” “If you loved me, you would never, you would always…”
Love begins with desire and hope, consummates in bliss and passion, and if we choose relationship as our primary healing path, will weave its way through minefields of betrayal, hurt, hatred and everything we most fear, until, if we are lucky, persevere and keep our hearts and minds open, forgiving our own selves and each other all the way, we emerge on the other side, still in love, in a much more spacious, safe and grounded way. We can evolve through to a place where love is safe, and trust is solid. The path to that place is not an easy one, though. It might involve breaking up and reconnecting. It might not. It did for me.
As a songwriter and metaphysician, I am fascinated by love, and my relationship history has deeply informed my writing. These songs chronicle the understandings and teachings of love through all of its stages, the sweet, the bitter and the fascinating. It is a journey that can take us into the heart of the deepest pain possible to experience, and if we are willing to move through it, to a place of spaciousness, empowerment and permanent heart opening.
If we open our hearts fully and unconditionally to ourselves, we become able to open fully to another. If we open fully to another, we will have our frozen places broken open and melted, a kind of global warming of the soul, disastrous while it’s happening, empowering and strengthening after.
Sinead O’Connor wrote, “Thank you for breaking my heart / thank you for tearing it apart / now I’ve a strong, strong heart”.
Having our heart broken by the one we have trusted more than any other human is a profoundly transformational experience. These songs focus on the transformational journey of love, from seeking, finding, losing, falling, betrayal, abandonment, self-forgiveness and reconnection and renewal.
We are complex beings, and we require the mirroring of another to reveal to us our most profound loving, beautiful as well as what we least love and accept about ourselves.
I invite you to share this journey with me.
Winds of Change is located on 5th Street, right across from Hot Chocolates, the concert is in the back room at four pm. There are lots of other events there that day too, starting with a sound healing concert at 1pm and continuing on to the evening, as well as sales and such; it’s the big Valentine’s Day event. Hope to see you there!
